TTC Baby #1 vs. TTC Baby #2

Had my first in-person appt at our fertility clinic and was struck by the differences between this year and 3 years ago.

Blood work

Baby #1 – I fretted all day, waiting for the results to come in and then poured over them, looking up the values online to double check whether they were normal

Baby #2 – Forgot to check my email for the test results until 5 days later and then gave them a once over and called it a day.

Body Prep

Baby #1 – Fertility boosting yoga stretches each night. Prenatal, vitamin D, coQ10, B6, every night. 2 mugs of smelly herb tea daily as prescribed by my acupuncturist, as well as many needle sessions. Daily meditations. Extra strict diet – not for calories but for nutrients – like full fat dairy serving each day. No caffeine. No alcohol.

Baby #2 – prenatal and coQ10 vitamins daily. Did smelly herb tea for a few days and then kept forgetting to drink it. Keep forgetting to call my acupuncturist and refill the herbs and schedule more needle sessions. No meditation. 1 cup of coffee a day. Plenty of full fat dairy servings (i.e. ice cream every night). No fertility boosting stretches.

First In Person Appointment

Baby #1 – Nervous, excited. Counting down the days. Daydreaming about getting pregnant. Did some down-there grooming before the appt. Wife came with me and held my hand.

Baby #2 – Kept forgetting about it. Was deep in work mode and barely left for the clinic on time. Thought about grooming but decided it’s nothing the doctor hasn’t seen before. I told my wife she could just stay at work. “Just be there for the inseminations.”

During the appointment

Baby #1 – Was sweaty and nervous. Super bummed that we likely wouldn’t start inseminating that cycle (found what turned out to be two large uterine polyps that needed to be removed.)

Baby #2 – Totally chill and had a nice conversation with Dr H. She actually tried to convince me to inseminate this cycle as I’m about to ovulate and have a large follicle ready to go, but my brain immediately screamed “IM NOT READY!” So I held off. Even though she kept saying “are you sure? I really want to get that egg.” 🤣

Granted, it’s very hard to see if my polyps have returned when I’m about to ovulate and my lining is super thick. So the verdict is still out on that question. But everything else seems to be ok. Dr. H doesn’t want to use Clomid the first cycle because my body develops a lot of follicles and she’s worried I’ll have multiples. But she’ll prescribe it if the first try is unsuccessful.

So for now we’re booked for a March insemination with a monitored cycle and a trigger shot. I have no idea why I’m not ready now or for a February try. S asked me why we’re not trying in February and I didn’t really have a good answer. Although I am concerned about us starting Mabel in full-time preschool in late Aug and making sure we give her enough time to adjust to that before we turn her world upside down with the arrival of a baby. Soooo, I guess the answer is, March just feels right? Who knows, S may change my mind on that and we might try in Feb. Stay tuned.

In other news, I hate flu season. We’re on night 3 with a feverish toddler who’s barking wet loud coughs and can only sleep while being held by one of us at a certain angle so its easier for her to breathe.

That open-mouth breathing just breaks my heart in two!


5 thoughts on “TTC Baby #1 vs. TTC Baby #2

  1. I still had some nerves for #2, just different than the first time around. We have no fertility coverage now with our medical insurance, so we weren’t sure if we’d be able to do more than one FET. Thankfully we didn’t need to worry about it, but it put a lot of pressure on me to know that it probably needed to work the first time!! I’m so sorry Mabel is sick right now, I hope she gets better soon!!


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